Next up in our Queer+ Voices series, we'll be featuring photographer, filmmaker, and author Sharisse Coulter, who proudly identifies as a woman. This entry in our series is a great time to point out that while we decided to use the word “queer" in the title of our series for its broad reach within the community, we recognize and acknowledge that this term doesn't necessarily speak to all of our interview subjects' identities and experiences. Moving forward, we'll be calling this series Queer+ Voices as a reminder of that! Now, onto the interview!
Tell us a little bit about your coming out experience(s). How has life changed for you since being “out”?
SC: For most of my life I felt comfortable as a straight woman. I had only ever been attracted to men. At 38, I was attracted to a woman for the first time in my life. I had just ended my marriage and felt comfortable experimenting. It was nice, but I didn't have any big revelations about my sexuality. I let it go, considered myself straight, and continued dating men.
About eight months ago I started dating a woman. Shortly thereafter I made the decision to tell my friends, family, and son. I was most concerned with my son's reaction. In part because she was the first person I'd introduced him to since his dad and I split up and also because he'd never known me to date a woman. When I asked him if he thought it was weird that I'd been married to a man and was now dating a woman he shrugged and said, “Not really. I know lots of lesbians." And then resumed the conversation about who would win in a matchup between a T-rex and a superhero. In that moment, and in the loving and supportive responses I got from friends and family, I recognized my privilege in being able to experiment, date and tell anyone I wanted without fear or rejection. It's a sign of the social progress made as well as being at a stage of my own life where I'm not looking for anyone's approval. For the most part I haven't been pressed to label myself, which is good because I still don't know what to say. But when their curiosity proves too much I usually just say, “I'm straight, but my girlfriend is a lesbian."
LBP: How do other aspects of your identity intersect (or perhaps clash) with your sexuality?
SC: As an artist whose mission is to empower women through creativity, I find that my friend and professional circles are already very accepting and seamlessly integrated. I was raised in a conservative Christian environment in which acceptance at a younger age wouldn't have been a forgone conclusion, but even then, most of the disparaging comments I heard about being gay referred to men.
The main clash I've experienced is internalized prejudice that comes up when I challenge my own stories about myself. Straight no longer accurately describes me, but I don't feel any different than I did before. I'm simply in love with a woman. Sometimes, like when my girlfriend and I kissed on a sidewalk and a dude driving by hung out his window and yelled, “Yeah! Hey ladies!" I recognize that people behave differently with us than they do when I've been with men. Overall it feels like there is an “othering" that occurs in changing the way people see me, but mostly people are just uncomfortable with defining new parameters and language, not with the fact that I'm dating a woman.
Image description: Square graphic with yellow background and large white quotation mark at the top. At bottom of square, large black text reads: "queer+ voices." In the middle, in black text, is a quote from Sharisse's interview. (The last two sentences of her response to question 1). Under the quote, in bold black text reads: "~Sharisse Coulter. Pronouns: She/Her"
LBP: Pride is a celebration of liberation but also an acknowledgement of struggle, resistance, and revolution. Where do you see yourself in that celebration? Where do you see yourself in that struggle?
SC: I see myself as someone who is in an extremely privileged position. I “came out" at a time when the hardest barriers to equality had been taken on by others, when social progress meant that I could reasonably assume acceptance in all areas of my life, and when I go into spaces anywhere in the world I still present as a straight, white, female. With that, I recognize my privilege as a responsibility to listen to the struggles so many are still going through and to speak up when confronted with ignorance and intolerance.
LBP: As an artist, how does your “queerness" or sexual orientation show up in your creative work?
SC: As a photographer/filmmaker, my work is about seeing people and reflecting back to them something they didn't see in themselves or something they didn't think anyone else saw in them. In that way, every time I expand my own perspective, I expand my capacity to see others and it makes me better.
As an author, I am incorporating queer relationships into my upcoming third novel. Fiction allows us to step inside and experience the world of “other" while leaving our prejudices in the “real world." That suspension creates empathy and understanding through a shift in perspective. Hopefully through representation the gap between “other" and “real world" shrinks, then eventually disappears, all the stories blending together until all we are left with is our shared human story.
LBP: What queer-centered artists, shows, films, podcasts, authors, etc. are you into right now?
SC: Glennon Doyle's Untamed, Elizabeth Gilbert on Insta, Maria Popova's BrainPickings.org, We're Here and Gentleman Jack on HBO.
LBP: What are some of your favorite LGBTQ+ organizations or businesses you'd recommend our readers look into, buy from, donate to, volunteer for, etc.?
SC: LadyBrain. Apart from that, I haven't yet done my research and don't want to offer recommendations without knowing what I'm talking about.
LBP: Is there anything else you'd like to mention in closing?
SC: I don't know how I feel about the queer label as it relates to me. I am grateful that it is up to me, and only me, to decide how I I fit in. What I do know is that I am madly in love with a woman. I feel loved and supported and happy. And to feel all that in the midst of a pandemic and the dumpster fire that is this presidency is pretty miraculous. I am one lucky woman.
To find out more about Sharisse Coulter, visit http://sharissecoulter.com. Stay tuned throughout the month of July for more Queer+ Voices interviews!
3/20/2020 0 Comments
Brain Candy - Sweet Relief Edition
The bad news? Our gigs are cancelled as long as the quarantine is in effect. The good news? Artists are accustomed to a scrappy, resourceful life. We will get through this together. But we need our community's help. Thankfully, various San Diegan supporters of the Lady Brain Presents family have already reached out to ask how they can help their local women artists during this time. So we put together this special edition of Brain Candy, where we asked members one simple question: What are the top ways your community can support you NOW? Here are their answers, listed in order of response. We will be updating this blog as more members respond, so please check back in regularly, and show some love to the women who have worked tirelessly years through the years to bring you art, music, education, joy, healing, and entertainment.
You'll notice many requests for direct donations in addition to work for sale, services for hire, virtual entertainment, and exchange of goods. Please note that this crisis has brought on immediate financial insecurity, which can be a traumatic and difficult space to operate productively/creatively within. We are all doing our best to pull through it and help each other in the process. If you are in a position to help one or more members during this time, please do so. For those who do not have the means support financially, there are plenty of ways to support an artist at no cost - please interact with them on social media and feel free to ask them directly how you can help. We are grateful for any support in keeping our thriving womxn's art scene alive.
Musician, MC, Playwright, Activist & Educator
Singer, Songwriter, Hired Gun
Writer, Photographer, Videographer, Graphic Designer
-Merch (books, prints) and Services (video editing, graphic design, commissions)
Musician, Singer, Songwriter, Vocal and Performance Coach, Healer
-Messy Cat Music voice/performance/acting lessons (619-316-4948)
-Roze Wellness virtual Reiki energy distance healing (619-316-4948)
-Music (Tori splits sales with the band)
Musician, Singer, Songwriter
Laura Jane Willcock
Musician, Singer, Songwriter, DJ, Producer
-Lux Records Music and Merch
-Paypal at email@example.com
Musician, Singer, Songwriter, Artist
Singer, Songwriter, Touring Artist
-Music and Merch
Singer, Songwriter, Musician, Photographer, Healer
Singer, Songwriter, Healer
Singer, Songwriter, Musician
Poet, Writer, Spoken Word Artist, Editor
Musician, Singer, Songwriter, Host, Producer, Photographer, Videographer
If you've shown support to the above artists in their immediate time of need, and you'd like to contribute further to the Lady Brain Collective as a whole, please find links below! Thank you for the love!
Lady Brain Collective // Lady Brain Presents
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Thanks to all our local photographer/videographer friends who came out last weekend to shoot the first ever Lady Brain Fest! We appreciate all your support and are forever grateful you were willing to help us document this event! Special thanks to Finest City Entertainment who made it possible for us to livestream the entire show on Facebook!
Photos by Sharisse Coulter - Gallery - Facebook Album
Photos by Chuck Lapinsky - Facebook Album
Photos by John Hancock - Facebook Album
Photos by Jamie Newsome - Gallery - Facebook Album
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Shout out to Heather Marie for hosting the March meet-up in her lovely home! This month, we talked about working with audio techs to capture the best sound at live events. (Thanks to John Mcconnell for taking our questions and to Heather for presenting his answers to the group.) We also received a stellar presentation from Lady Brain member Sharisse Coulter. We learned so much! It's so wonderful to see this group growing. Thanks to all who attended!
2/3/2019 0 Comments
February Member Workshop Recap
Special thanks to Corina Rose for hosting this month's member meet-up. We did some great networking and got the ball rolling on planning some awesome showcases in the coming months, including the first annual Lady Brain Fest, which will feature a 100% womxn-fronted lineup! Most importantly, we learned a lot about what kinds of resources and support members are looking for. Thanks to all attended - we can't wait to grow with you!
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